Love is love

Once again, I want to thank my awesome husband for patiently typing out my thoughts for me to get this post out. It’s been weighing heavily on my mind, and I knew that it had to be done.

Recently, I was introduced to the song “Same Love” by Macklemore & Ryan Lewis. A friend posted the video to her Facebook page, dedicating it to some special people in her life who were celebrating a milestone. I clicked on the video, and was immediately struck by the images. Combined with the words, within a couple of minutes, tears were streaming down my face. As I watched, and listened, I thought about people I have known who have fought their own fights to be accepted for who they are. I thought about all of the people we saw, and spoke to at the Seattle Pride Parade we attended as a family last year. I thought about the future. I thought about my son.

If you haven’t seen the video, here it is. Watch it, I’ll wait.

I have asked myself, over and over, during the last couple of weeks, why it matters? What impact does it have on anyone’s life if a same sex couple choose to marry? How does that impact you in any way, shape or form? I honestly believe that we don’t choose who we fall in love with. Love is love. Why would anyone choose to live a life where they are surrounded by people who do nothing more than spew vitriol and hate about something that doesn’t even affect them? Why would you choose to be discriminated against, for any reason? Many people fought, and continue to fight for equal rights for everyone, regardless of the colour of their skin, their country of origin, or their gender. Why, in the minds of troubling numbers of people, then, does it make it ok to hate on someone because of who they love?

Q pride flag

The only thing that I have been able to come up with about why people oppose and hate is fear. Fear that allowing same-sex couples to marry will cause what? Fear that they will be forced into a same-sex partnership in the future? Fear that by allowing people to embrace and celebrate themselves, it will lead to happiness? Fear of being judged by others for support? I don’t know. If you can give me a good, solid reason, please do, because I have not been able to come up with a single one.

I want to scream and shout that this is no different than the days of segregation. Of the days when a white woman was not allowed to marry an Asian, or black or non-white man? I want people to be angry that in 2013, people are still being told who they can and cannot be with for no other reason than hate and intolerance. If we really believe in equal rights, that means for everyone, not just select groups of people.

All I know is that I dream that one day our son will live in a world where love is love. I want him to live in a world where it doesn’t matter if two men or two women marry anymore than it does if a man and woman want to marry. I want him to understand that as long as the partner he (or anyone, for that matter) chooses makes him happy, safe, secure and loved more than anything in the world, that is all that matters.

I also want to thank Macklemore, Ryan Lewis, and all of their team for having the courage to take a public stand for something that is important to so many. We all need to stand up and have our voices heard. We are no different, except that no one told me that I couldn’t marry the person I loved. Join in the fight and stand up for equal rights for everyone. Let your voice be heard. I am. For if we don’t take a stand now, and make a change, then who will?


  1. says

    Such a fantastic post, Brandee… I feel the exact same way. It absolutely boggles my mind that in 2013 we are still having these conversations. I say live, let live, and focus on what makes YOU happy, because we ALL deserve that.

  2. says

    Compassionate post Brandee….It is sad that people need to pass judgement about something that makes no impact on their life … for if it did – they would not be making those judgments, would understand and support their friends, and they would no longer be passing the toxic comments that strengthen and support a narrow minded view of a large group of sheep….


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