Picking up the pieces

I can't remember a time when I didn't want to have a career.  When I was 5, my mom tells me that I quite proudly announced to the guy I had decided I was going to marry (as you do) that he could stay home with our children while I went to work and had a career. When I was in high school, I took honours and IB courses so that I could get into a good university. When I was in the Army, I … [Read more...]

In defense of the man-bun

Over the last several months, I have heard SO many people bemoaning the hairstyle choices of men, usually in reference to the "man-bun" but also guys with long hair in general and it really got me thinking.  My son Q is one of those guys who chooses to wear his hair long.  He has preferred long hair on himself since he was really young, and now, at almost 8, his long hair is part of … [Read more...]

Plus size women shouldn’t…

No one likes being told that they can't or shouldn't do things. Now imagine, if you will, being a woman and being told that because of your size you shouldn't do activities like yoga, or dance, or even go to the gym. Being told that you are "too big" or "too chubby" or "make people uncomfortable". Getting the side eye when you walk into a yoga or dance studio or snickered at in the gym. Being told … [Read more...]

It all started with a picture

It was just another day, really. I had been away for the weekend and had picked up a new pair of (totally awesome) leggings. I mean really. These leggings have skulls made up of little starbursts on them. So cool. Since the weather is getting colder again, what with fall being here and everything, it's rapidly becoming obvious that the time to switch from skirts to leggings is nearly upon us. And … [Read more...]

So, I wore the damn bikini…

So. A couple of months ago, I bared my heart (and a lot of myself in the process) when I bought the damn bikini. The result of this post floored me. As I mentioned in the last post, I wasn't prepared for the impact that it was going to have. It went viral, was viewed thousands of times and shared over 2,000 times on Facebook alone. I wanted to be brave, and encourage others to be brave, in my … [Read more...]

You’ve stopped talking

"You've stopped talking", my friend said. Huh? We are talking right now, I thought. "Why have you stopped talking?" she pressed. "You haven't written much in the last little while." "I've been so sick i could barely think or breathe for weeks. Also, I haven't felt like I had anything much to say, I guess. I think of things to say but then I'm too scared to say them." I replied. "Bull. That is not … [Read more...]

Buy the damn bikini

OK, I debated posting this, but after reading something an amazing friend just experienced, here goes. Its long, so bear with me 'k? This afternoon, I bought a bikini. Not a tankini. Not a cut out one piece, but an actual bikini. You guys. A bikini. Anyone who knows me well knows that decades (literally) of body loathing and low self esteem and confidence have taken their toll, and I haven't … [Read more...]

I hated my nose

I hated my nose. It was small, flat, wide and people would often tell me it was "cute". I hated it when people said that, or would draw attention to it. It is a Filipino nose, inherited from my Dad's side of the family - that distinctive nose that so many have and makes us easily recognizable when you know what to look for. I longed for the pointed, triangular noses of my friends, pert and … [Read more...]